Are you going through a Divorce in your family?

When I was 18 I heard the news from my father, my parents were splitting up. I was shocked. My mother felt that she wanted more out of life, lalalalala. I was so angry at her and took on the attitude, "OK, we don’t need her anyway." She left our home with my youngest brother who was 11 at the time. She left my dad, as well as my brother who was 17 and I. She felt we were
old enough to stay with my dad, that we really didn’t need a mother like my youngest brother. I remember the feeling like it was yesterday but God and time have a way of making everything all right. I can sit here and write 100 different reasons telling you why they divorced but really none of that matters now. The facts are that children get caught in the middle when parent’s divorce.

Can God put the family back together?

It is possible, but it doesn’t always happen that way. You may have to live the rest of your life with all the realities a divorce brings: possibly a new school, new home, new financial situation (problems that arise from less money), and maybe even a new family. Do not let the discouragement get you down. God can put YOU back together. Right now you probably feel like the divorce broke your life into a million pieces. Even at 18 I felt my life was totaled. I made some terrible choices at the time because I simply didn’t care because my life as I knew it was no longer. I felt that everything that I held dear to me as a child in a family was a lie and it shattered me.

God can put you back together again even better than you were before. For God to do that you must respond the way He wants you to. Some of the wrong ways to deal with a divorce include:

In God’s strength and power, respond positively by learning from the experience and move on with life. Romans 8:28 says, "And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God."

God wants to use every situation in your life to conform you into the image of His Son Jesus Christ. Don’t run from you pain, run to God. Allow Him to use your pain to make you into the person He wants you to become. In the end you will be a much stronger person because of what you’ve been through.

I didn’t run to God with my pain when I was young. I did most of the things listed above and made a terrible mess of my life for some time. Not until I totally gave it all to God many years later did I really find that God used those times in me to strengthen me and guide me, as He is the potter I was the clay.

If you are going through a separation or divorce in your family, give it all to God. Know that your life isn’t ruined, you are not to blame in the least bit. You are special to your parents and even if they choose not to live together doesn’t change their love and dedication to you, even if it seems like you are either in left field here or right in the middle of a tug-of-war. You are Special. You are Valuable. You are Important. Give your life and pain over to God in prayer; seek Christian friends to help you through all of this. Find loving and trusting people to open up and share your feelings with. No matter how hurt or angry you feel do not turn your back on God, you truly need Him right now more than ever to hold you in His great loving arms. I pray for all of you that have to go through this, it is not easy to weather this storm, it cuts deep, but with God’s help you will get through it. I promise!